Rules for Doctors – and probably applicable to other health providers also


This was originally written by Dr Rob, reposted on sent from my teleportation device, pointed out to me by @amcunningham on Twitter – and deservedly republished here!
Rule 1: They don’t want to be at your office.

It may seem odd to patients, but most doctors forget that going to the doctor is generally unnerving. We work there, and being in a doctor’s office is normal to us. Not so with most patients. The spotlight is on them and their health. They stand on the scale, undress, tell intimate things about their lives, confess errors, are poked, prodded, shot with needles, lectured at, and then billed for the whole thing….There is always an underlying fear and self-consciousness that pervades when a person is sitting on the exam table. The best thing to do in response to that is to show compassion.

Rule 2: They have a reason to be at your office.

They don’t come to the office to waste the doctor’s time. Yet early in my training I was incredulous at the reasons some of my patients were coming to see the doctor. Why come in for a headache? Why come in for a cold?…It took me being in my own practice (and trying to keep my business going) to realize that there is (almost) always an underlying reason for a patient to come in. Sometimes that reason is simple: they have terrible pain that needs to be treated. Other times, however, the reason is more subtle. When a person comes to my office with enlarged lymph nodes, for example, the real reason they are coming in is that they are afraid it is cancer. If a person has chest pains, they are afraid it is their heart. On every visit I try to identify the real reason (or the real fear) that brings them to see me. I don’t end the visit until I have addressed that reason.

Rule 3: They feel what they feel.

Patients will often tell me their symptoms in a very apologetic tone. They seem to think that they have to come to me with the “right” set of symptoms, and not having those symptoms is their fault. Sometimes those symptoms make no sense to me at all, and I am tempted to dismiss or ignore them. But as a physician, you have to trust your patient….Yes, some may exaggerate what they feel out of anxiety or out of fear that you won’t hear them for lesser symptoms, but then your job is to uncover the anxiety, not ignore the complaint. I have heard from many patients that their doctor “did not believe” their complaints because they did not make sense. If you don’t trust them, why should they trust you?

Rule 4: They don’t want to look stupid.

People are often worried that they are over-reacting. They wonder what I must think for a person to come to the office with that symptom. This is especially true of parents bringing their children in. Nobody wants to be “that mother that over-reacts to everything.” In response to this, I try to specifically say, “I am glad you came to the office for this because…” or “Yeah, I can see how that worried you because it could be….”

Rule 5: They pay for a plan.

What do people pay for when they come to the medical office? They pay for opinion, yes. They pay for knowledge as well. But what they really pay for is a plan of action….They want to know what is going to be done to help. I try and give a plan, either verbal or written, to each patient that walks out of the exam room. What medications are given and why? What medications are to be stopped? What tests are ordered and what will the results mean? When is the next appointment? What should they call for if they have problems? The better I can answer these questions, the more confidently the patient will walk out of the exam room. The days of paternalistic medicine are over – no handing a prescription and just saying “take it.” Patients should know why they are putting things in their body.

Rule 6: The visit is about them.

With all of the stresses in a doctor’s office, I get tempted to complain about things. Who better to complain to than someone who feels much the same way? But patients are paying for you to take care of their problems, not the reverse. I keep my personal gripes or frustrations to myself as much as possible.

via well.blogs.nytimes.com

Dr. Robs’ rules, initially published in NYT and on his blog in 2008 deserve to resurface in the blogoshpere every now and then.

The three questions is another way to make sure you and the people you see ‘get the message’

– what is my main problem?

– what do I have to do?

– why is that important?

6 comments

  1. # 1 resonates with me.

    Doctors sometimes forget that the patient has a life outside of being a patient.

    When my disease was active, I was sent to the lab, to the specialist, for xrays, to physio and to o.t. Then there were visits to the pharmacy and massage therapy and the chiropractor.

    Each of these visits took time, both in travelling to and fro and also because often, many of these practitioners were running behind schedule.

    I’m grateful that we have access to these services, when we need them. I think doctors do need to understand that running the gauntlet of appointments can be exhausting to an already overwhelmed patient.

    I am so thankful that my visits to all of these places have drastically dropped off.

  2. Hi Marianna
    It does take a lot of time being a patient!! I do think some treatment providers forget that not only are you struggling with having something that whips your energy away, but you’re still living your normal daily life with food prep, organising kids, dealing with paying bills and even doing the grocery shopping and work – and then you’ve got to get to appointments!
    One of my main reasons for promoting self management without relying on ‘hands-on’ therapy of any type is that I simply don’t have time in my life to keep going to appointments, I want to live my life instead!

  3. This is really good.
    I often doubt whether I have anything worth bothering about, and then wonder if that is denial talking.
    I hate going to the Dr. (my PCP knows this and doesn’t take offense), and I am a nurse that used to work in a Dr’s office! It is different on the other side!

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